Planet Hypocrisy

I almost didn’t go to the gym today. Planet Hypocrisy

It wasn’t because I didn’t need to; I did. 

It wasn’t because the equipment isn’t great; it is.

The reason I almost didn’t go to the gym today was because of the hypocrites that go there.

Let me explain.

While I was driving in town the other day I saw a guy that goes to the same gym as I do walking into a donut shop. I thought maybe he had mistakenly gone into the wrong place and was ready to give him the benefit of the doubt until I saw him walk out with a box of donuts. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. Here is a guy that puts on his work out clothes and is pumping iron with his “gym friends” in the early morning hours and dunking donuts with his wife just a few moments later. “What a pretender”, I thought to myself as I drove on my way. “He acts all healthy at the gym and acts totally different outside the gym.  If that’s the kind of people who go to the gym, I reasoned, there was really no point in going to such a place”.   

Hypocrite.

Then I remembered something important that I had almost forgotten. I remembered the reason I got up nearly every morning and went to the gym myself was not because I was in perfect health but rather because I wanted to be. 

Although I have been going to the gym for six months myself I am still not in perfect shape.  In fact, I think it would be more fitting (pun intended) to say that I’m a work in progress and always will be. The same can be said of the guy that was working on his 12 pack abs earlier in the morning and who is now working on his dozen of donuts. It’s not so much that he is pretending to be something he’s not but rather that he is striving to be something that he wants to be but has yet to become.  In my mind that makes him less of a hypocrite and more of a hero. 

Let me transition for just a moment. 

I often hear many people say the reason they don’t want to go to church is because of all the hypocrites there. I won’t argue the fact that hypocrites can be found at church. There are those that go to church only to play the part but once they leave the church building the mask comes off and the real person is made visible. These are people who have no desire to change only a desire to have a “form of godliness while denying its power” (2 Timothy 3:5 NIV).

Hypocrites can be found at church. 

I would suggest, however, that maybe they are not as many in number as we think. I would contend that some that are labeled as hypocrites are really imperfect people that are still in the process of being perfected in their faith. 

Week after week they come to church not because they think they are in perfect spiritual health but rather because they want to be. They come to build their spiritual muscles and they leave with the expectation that they will exercise their faith at work, at school, and in their neighborhood. They desire to live for God and most of the time they do but sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they leave the church building and minutes later walk into an argument.

An argument over heard by someone else; an argument that draws this conclusion: hypocrite. 

Here’s a person that put on their church clothes and was talking Jesus in the morning and is talking down to his neighbor in the afternoon. “If that is the kind of people who go to church”, they reason, “there is really no point in going to such a place”.

On the contrary.

The kind of people that go to church is the whole point of going to such a place.

The kind of people that go to church are, by and large, those who recognize their imperfections. 

Imperfect people go to church to worship the One who is perfect, Jesus Christ, and to call upon Him to do a work of grace in their heart that purifies their imperfections.

They go not because they are pretending to be something they’re not but rather because they are striving to be something that they want to be but have yet to become.  In my mind that makes the person that goes to church less of a hypocrite and more of a hero. 

So tomorrow I will go to the gym and Sunday I will go to church. I will go not expecting to find people in perfect physical health or spiritual health at either place but rather people on a journey toward that end.

©2015 Travis L. Edwards. All Rights Reserved.

 

 

 

40 Years-40 Life Lessons

Today I celebrate my 40th birthday so I thought I would share with you some lessons I’ve learned during my 40 years on this earth. As you will notice some are serious and some are not so serious. I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I enjoyed writing them. 

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  1. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
  2. Jesus loves me and died for my sins.
  3. Children who have parents that love God are blessed beyond measure.
  4. A man who has a virtuous wife has received the favor of God.
  5. There are absolutely no words to describe what it is like to be a daddy.
  6. Moments with grandparents should be cherished. You will miss them when they are gone.
  7. What you know will open doors but who you know will open more doors.
  8. The greatest investment you can make is in people.
  9. True friends are discovered in adversity.
  10. You can learn something from everyone you meet.
  11. Smiling and laughing are both contagious.
  12. You will like more things if you try more things.
  13. Dessert should be served first so you actually have room to eat it
  14. A Ford will not die when it’s driver has a Chevy heart.
  15. There is such a thing as a stupid question.
  16. Libraries are a wonderful gift to a community.
  17. A good name is invaluable.
  18. Positive people are more fun to be around than negative people.
  19. Growing old is inevitable but acting old is optional.
  20. If people approached Monday like they do Friday they would enjoy Monday like they do Friday.
  21. Everyone is someone’s difficult person.
  22. Nothing is ever lost that is placed in the hands of Jesus.
  23. Some people are in denial that Elvis Presley died on August 16, 1977.
  24. Words have the power of life and death so we should choose them carefully.
  25. People who attended Baptist churches in the 50’s as children or teenagers don’t know how to dance or play cards.
  26. You can pick on your siblings but nobody else can.
  27. The Apostle Paul really didn’t have the King James Version.
  28. Santa and Satan are not the same person even though they have the same letters in their name.
  29. Death is not a respecter of age, gender, or race.
  30. Love is a choice.
  31. Life is meant to be shared with others.
  32. The church is not perfect but it is still an important part of God’s plan in this world.
  33. I was young and now I am older but I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.
  34. Taking care of your body when you are young will pay huge dividends when you are old.
  35. Some things are better left unsaid.
  36. We were born for a purpose greater than ourselves and that purpose can only be found in the One greater than all; Jesus Christ.
  37. The older I get the more hair I have in my ears.
  38. Growing older is a gift because it allows me the opportunity to watch my family grow older
  39. We should number our days aright so we will gain a heart of wisdom.
  40. Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

What is one lesson you have learned during your lifetime?

©2015 Travis L. Edwards. All Rights Reserved. 

Monster Youniversity

 

the-stepford-guide-cassani-5A while back my oldest daughter was having a difficult time going to sleep. It wasn’t because she wasn’t tired, she was. It wasn’t because she doesn’t have a comfy bed, she does. The reason she was having such a difficult time going to sleep was because she was scared.

 

I wasn’t able to determine exactly why she was scared but she was afraid of something.

 

As a result, every night we went through the same routine to try and calm her fears. We made sure the closet door was shut. We turned on lights in the hallway and the bathroom. We reminded her that Jesus is always with her. We assured her that daddy and mommy would be in their room if she needed us. Some nights it worked and she went to sleep without much drama, other nights, however, it didn’t go very well at all.

 

On this particular night that was the case. It was time to go to bed and she wasn’t having it. We had gone through our normal routine to try and convince her everything was going to be okay and that there was nothing to be afraid of. Instead of getting calmer, however, she got more frantic. She was screaming and refusing to lie down and that’s when I had reached my limit.

 

I am usually a very empathetic person.  If someone is feeling any kind of pain I am feeling it with them. This particular night, however, my empathizer had gone AWOL. Instead of identifying with what she was feeling at that moment I made it all about what I was feeling at that moment. I was tired and ready for bed and so I raised my voice and told her to go to sleep or there would be consequences.

 

She slept well that night (at least she pretended to anyway) but I didn’t. As soon as I was finished talking with her the Holy Spirit started talking with me. It was a talk that began that night and continued the next morning.

 

As I was shaving and pondering the way I had responded I heard the still small voice of God say to me:

don’t be a monster your kids are afraid of.

 

Ouch.

I had just got cut while shaving but it wasn’t on my face it was in my heart.

 

Galatians 5:22-23 says that the fruit of the Holy Spirit is …patience…and gentleness… Obviously, I had been lacking in both the night before with my daughter and as result my actions were in no way Christ-like. They were in fact selfish and self-centered and God reminded me that neither are becoming of a dad that wants his children to run to him in their fear.

 

So that evening I modeled for my daughter humility. I took her aside, explained to her my actions the night before were wrong, and asked if she would forgive me.

 

She did, we hugged and all was well again.

 

But not forgotten.

 

I haven’t forgotten that experience and pray I never do.

 

Occasionally, when I am shaving, I look at myself in the mirror and ask myself: what do my kids see when they look at me? Do they see a monster that scares them or a man of God that cares for them?

 

When you look in the mirror tomorrow morning I encourage you to ask the same question of yourself.

 

What do your kids see when they look at you? 

©2015 Travis L. Edwards. All Rights Reserved. 

Do You Want To Build A Snowman? (Unthawing Frozen Relationships)

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In November 2013 Disney released a movie that captured the hearts of young and old alike.

In the weeks and months following its release there was no mistaking that our culture had fallen in love with the main characters of the movie: Elsa, Anna, Kristoff, and Olaf.

Shirts were sold bearing their image.

Birthday party after birthday party had them as their theme.

Nearly everywhere you went the conversation eventually made its way around to this movie: school, church, work, the gym. Okay, maybe not the gym but you get my point. People couldn’t stop talking about this movie and singing its songs.

Of course the movie I am referring to is “Frozen”.

Surprised?

I didn’t think so. I have a feeling you were probably frozen in time after the first sentence.

I bet you might have even started singing “Let it Go” in your head when you figured out the direction I was going.

Another song from the movie you are likely familiar with is “Do You Want to Build a Snowman”?

“Do you wanna build a snowman

Come on, let’s go and play!

I never see you anymore
Come out the door
It’s like you’ve gone away

We used to be best buddies
And now we’re not
I wish you would tell me why!

Do you wanna build a snowman?
It doesn’t have to be a snowman”.

 Those lyrics are stirring aren’t they? Here’s a little girl that misses the close relationship she once had with her big sister. She doesn’t understand what happened to put this relational distance between them. All she knows is that she wants her sister back and is willing to do anything to make it a happen.

As we consider our own life it’s important to listen closely to hear if someone in our family is knocking at the door of our heart asking: “do you want to build a snowman?” Does our spouse or children feel like we’ve gone away because they never see us anymore?

 In Ephesians 5:15-16 we are instructed to “be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity”.

It is never a wise decision to close the door on our family in order to give ourselves to other things. Sacrificing the relationship we have with our family on the altar of opportunity is unwise. The only opportunities worth giving ourselves to are those that give us more time with our family.

The opportunity to be a husband or wife is now; we need to make the most of it. The chance to be a daddy or mommy is now; we need to seize it.

We must listen closely to the one knocking at the door of our heart asking if we want to build a snowman and then respond by giving them what they want. You see, it’s really not a snowman that they want to build with us but rather a close relationship.

We need to open up the door and give them the time of our life. We’ll be glad we did and so will they. [Tweet “Now is the moment to go build a snowman with someone in your family.”]

What steps can you take today to make more time for your family?

 ©2015 Travis L. Edwards. All Rights Reserved.